We decided to share how things are going with the baby and the changes we have experienced since being pregnant. There is nothing easy about bringing life into this world, especially when you were busy doing other things and didn’t plan it at all. LOL
However, we are so blessed and can’t wait to “evict” our darling bundle of joy from my womb. However until then, what better way to ease the frustration then to vent to all our supporters and friends.
Thank you so much in advance for choosing to be a babysitter…
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Valerie J. Lewis Coleman has helped women across the nation find relational fulfillment. With over twenty years of experience in family and relationships, this expert has given advice on various issues including identifying the four types of male hunters, avoiding seventy percent of men who only want the goody box and winning the heart of Mr. Right-For-You. As she assists others with building strong relationships, she shares how she overcame personal struggles and offers proven techniques to help you get off the crazy cycle of relational demise in her bestselling novel THE FORBIDDEN SECRETS OF THE GOODY BOX! To learn more about Valerie, her books and overcoming relational matters, visit ValerieJLColeman.com and PenOfTheWriter.com.
Successful. Beautiful. Intelligent. Yet a satisfying relationship eludes Debra Hampton. At thirty-five years old, she can’t figure out why her philosophy on men—and what they want from women—isn’t working. She’s trapped in a cycle of shattered relationships, until a friend refers her to a relationship guru. After some resistance, Debra finds refuge in the counsel of Doc Reid as he helps her navigate through the storms of rejection and failed love. Once he reveals the error of her ways, will Debra master the forbidden secrets to attract her soul mate or continue to keep love at bay?
Why He Left You for Her – Differences in how men and women communicate, think and act have forged a seemingly impassable canyon between the sexes. In addition, once a person’s heart has been broken, a play-or-get-played mentality could result in busted car windows, stalking and other non-productive means of revenge; thus further expanding the great divide.
Valerie J. Lewis Coleman will openly share her real-life relational challenges with our audience to help them make sound decisions and avoid unnecessary drama. Using humor and wit, she will divulge tips, techniques and suggestions to maneuver through adverse situations and build effective romantic relationships.
The GaptoothDiva Radio audience will enjoy hearing Valerie’s proven advice on
• Three things that lead women to make terrible relationship decisions
• Every man’s private marriage checklist
• A simple two-letter word that makes him pop the question
• Why he just won’t propose
• Little signs that tell her he’s the one
• How to become a “man” whisperer with advice from men that women would be crazy to ignore
I’m so excited about this new season of GaptoothDiva Radio. If you were a listener of our past seasons, then you may have witnessed some of the country’s most inspiring and motivational individuals in business, literature, relationships, and more. However, in the past we asked the questions that made the person being interviewed more comfortable, neglecting the fact that you out there had real issues and concerns you wanted to discuss. Well forget about the past seasons! My goal is not to be controversial or blatantly disrespectful to get ratings. My goal is to not stuff celebrity names down your throat luring you into my web of constant advertising and sponsorship, that you miss the meat of the discussion.
My goal is to get you motivated to pursue your dreams of writing, music, acting, arts, retail, or whatever it is you love to do. My goal is to give you straight up advice and opinions on the issues that affect real people. Yes, I’m a little out there sometimes, but anyone with passion and a desire to make a difference has to be. No, you won’t hear us gossip about your favorite reality stars, but you will understand that without action, your dreams can not flourish. You will also realize that if you truly believe in yourself, everything is possible. That’s what the GaptoothDiva brand is all about.
Join me and my co-host, Boonyevilla aka “Dre” as we introduce Ci Ci Foster “The Queen of Sexy Drama“, a new urban drama writer and film producer whose work mirrors Eric Jerome Dickey, and Zane. Ci Ci Foster is an author, film producer, relationship advice columnist, and mompreneur who is taking the chic-lit scene by storm and empowering women in the process. A powerful new voice in African American lit, Foster’s literary debut, Sunny Rain, Published by 4 Hearts Publications (April 2010), is the sizzling story of three friends-Leslie, Natalie and Monica; three young women in Chicago who seem to have it all-men, looks that kill, and fabulous careers, but are each carrying secrets from the past that are haunting their lives and destroying their souls. Sunny Rain explores how Black women can heal themselves and get the love they deserve.
Mrs. Foster’s book sets out to change women’s old beliefs about relationships, and sparks honest, provocative discussions on sex, dating, abuse, and the importance of self-love.
Tonight we will discuss these topics that you may find interesting:
Four dating mistakes women make that keep them single
Why good black women are still single
Why loving yourself is essential in building and keeping a relationship
How she handles a successful marriage, a thriving career in Hollywood, and motherhood
An advice columnist for Fever Magazine, Web show host for Dig Into Books, and co-owner of Flower Goddess Productions, a film production company in Los Angeles, Foster has been featured in many publications, including The Chocolate Voice, XI magazine, Fever Magazine, Gloss Magazine, The Black Urban Times and has been a special guest on various radio shows.
Read Ci Ci’s article strictly for women titled “How to Keep Him Coming Back for More,”
Sunny Rain is a deeply provocative, epic novel that is guaranteed to grab and keep reader’s undivided attention as the story line explodes with lust, chaos, lies, and deception. This sensual ‘mindgasm’ is a must-read for anyone who enjoys reading erotic novels. ISBN: 978-0-615-32400-5 For more information visit www.4heartspublications.com
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GaptoothDiva talks candidly with Author LaDonna Smith about overcoming what some call a situation so close to “hell”… relationship abuse. If you or someone you know has experienced relationship abuse, whether physical, verbal or emotional, this is the show you need to listen to. The key points that we will be discussing surrounding this book are: (1) the need for continued awareness and education about domestic violence, (2) the need for an international database of marriages which can be accessed and used to verify marital statuses by (at min) state and government officials, and (3) the need for a domestic violence and abusers database. Sex offenders have a database why not those who commit domestic violence, as well as abusers?
For four and a half years author LaDonna M. Smith thought that she was married to the man of her dreams but the marriage turned out to be a four and a half year nightmare, which God made disappear in moments.
On August 14, 2003, LaDonna got married to a man she was prepared to spend the rest of her life. However, after days and months of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual abuse she found the strength to leave him. But she would soon return to endure even more hardships some repetitious some worse.
Finally, a year later she left for good and three and a half years later she filed for a divorce. Only to find out that her spouse had filed for an annulment a month later. How can he file for an annulment after so many years of marriage? Because – before, during, and after their marriage he was still legally married to his first wife.
The book I Married Satan takes you inside the life of a woman who suffered, endured and eventually triumphed through an abusive marriage; swallowed the pain; forgave her ex ____________ (you fill in the blank) and has since become stronger, wiser, and more spiritual than she could have ever imagined.
LaDonna is the Founder and CEO of Philatonian Productions, a member of The Black Writer’s Guild of Maryland, former intern producer of Bernie McCain Show, Associate Producer of the Michael Eric Dyson Show. Her on air name is “The Exectress” and she has also been a guest host on the “Smoke Break” Radio Show. She is also the Promotions Coordinator at WEAA 88.9 FM and a member of the Maryland Business Roundtable Speakers Bureau (MBRT). LaDonna is also the author of soon to be released children’s book “Hannah’s Song: A Musical Approach to Potty Training”, and a newly approved member of the National Association of Professional Women. LaDonna speaks at universities, colleges, churches, schools, women’s organizations, book clubs, and more.
Knowing who Boaz is will free you from looking for love in all the wrong places. You will be encouraged, remembering the priority is not you finding him, but him finding you focused and determined.
Found, but not Chosen?
Based on the Biblical account of Boaz and Ruth, The Boaz Factor…When You Are Ready For the Right One! will take you on a journey of self-discovery, highlighting why we hurt from past relationships and why we continue in a cycle of false relationships that we desire to be real.
With this revolutionary new book, Elder Brenda Bradley uses The Boaz Factor to breaks through the barriers of how and why we end up in the relationships that break our hearts. Grounded in scripture, truth and past experiences, The Boaz Factor will first help you to see truths that shift the paradigm of your relationships. Then, through practical, hands on application, Elder Brenda Bradley gives you a new plan to oblate-rate the cycle!
The Boaz Factor…When You Are Ready For the Right One!
Elder Brenda Bradley, a wearer of all hats, lives by the motto, “I never meet a stranger.” As a Relationship/Marriage Counselor, Choir Director, Pastor, Writer and Entrepreneur, she has over 20 years of experience. Her approach to relationship counseling is grounded by the Word. Quickly establishing herself in the industry through her wit and down to earth teaching style, Brenda makes the subject matter so simple “a baby could understand it!” She has spoken at various events, including Singles and Marriage Retreats, and has been published in several magazines.
Her message is simple: You don’t have to invest your heart in something that will never give you back what you put in!
For more information visit the author page at www.elderbradley.com
The Boaz Factor..When You Are Ready for the Right One! By: Brenda Bradley
Pages: 115 Paperback
Release: March 21, 2011
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WHEN RADIO AND POLYGAMY COLLIDE . . . For radio shock jock Nancy Neptune, life is just one big promotion. But when she’s sent to work at a radio station near a polygamist compound in Utah, trouble comes in triplicate. In a land where one good wife deserves another, Nancy Neptune hooks up with a drag queen and a one-armed reporter to rescue a mentally challenged polygamist who is being abused by one of his nine mommies and neglected by the other eight.
Jitters-A Quirky Little Audio Book is narrated through a series of news reports with the characters reacting to the events of the day. Jitters features a cast of 15 actors who tell their stories in first person narratives. Don’t miss this wacky ride through polygamist country, where the local radio station becomes a part of every news story they broadcast!
To learn more about Jitters-A Quirky Little Audio Book or to listen to a free nine-minute extended trailer, please visit http://www.jittersaudiobook.com. Check out the funny YouTube for Jitters-A Quirky Little Audio Book at
Adele Park spent more than 20 years of her career working in television and radio as a reporter, news anchor and on-air personality. During that time, Park earned several top journalism awards from The Associated Press, Colorado Broadcasters Association and Utah Broadcasters Association. Park has also worked in the print media; her articles and photos have been published in a variety of magazines. In 2008, Park formed Straight to Audio Productions L.L.C. And opened a recording studio in St. George, Utah.
To learn more about Jitters-A Quirky Little Audio Book, please visit the website at: www.jittersaudiobook.com
Also Featuring Information from Tony Marren the co-founder of Operation Just One Can.
In 2010 over 50 million Americans needed assistance from soup kitchens or food banks. Operation Just One Can was set up to give people ideas on how to support these two entities at a reasonable or realistic support level. They are not using this to raise money. It’s to educate people on grass roots ideas to get support within their area for continual resupplying factors.
Most of us are in full effect in our quest to change our prior circumstances and have already started working on becoming the new person we have resolute to be. However, some of us are still struggling with our relationship obstacles and the constant stress we experience on a daily basis. Well, GaptoothDiva has asked licensed psychologist in New York, Dr. Karen Sherman to talk to our listeners about possible ways to change our relationships and how to live life positively and possibly stress-free. Call in tonight with questions or comments, or even share your experiences about your attempts to alter your life.
Dr. Karen Sherman, a licensed psychologist in New York, has been in private practice for over 20 years. Her focus is relationships/marriage and helping people achieve their greatest potential. Karen is the author of “Mindfulness and The Art of Choice: Transform Your Life” which enables people to let go of conditioned responses and empower them to make their own choices; the co-author of “Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It, and Make It Last,” and a contributor to “101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life, Vol. 2,” writing a chapter about overcoming stress and “The Power of Persistence.” She’s a featured writer on Yahoo Personals, a relationship blogger for ThirdAge.com, and writes the “Disputes” column for Hitchedmag.com. Karen also conducts workshops, teleseminars and speaking engagements. She’s a frequent guest on national radio and her expert opinion has appeared in numerous publications. Additionally, she was a former relationships expert on the “Bo Griffin Morning Show,” and a marriage expert on ClubMom.com. Her memberships include American Psychological Association, American Counseling Association, Nassau County Psychological Association. She’s certified as a Nationally Board Certified Counselor and a National Family Life Educator and belongs to The National Registry for Marriage Friendly Therapists. She serves on the undergraduate Psychology Dept. at CW Post University. Her web sites, http://www.drkarensherman.com or http://www.ChoiceRelationships.com, offer free newsletters and programs. She and her husband have enjoyed over 30 years of marriage and have two daughters, a son-in-law, and 2 grandchildren.
Summary of Expertise:
Relationships: Premarital relationships, couples in ongoing marriages/relationships,
Education: Ph.D., Fordham University, 1989
American Psychological Association
American Counseling Association
Nassau County Psychologists Association
Nationally Board Certified Counselor
National Family Life Educator
Internet Presence: Blog for ThirdAge.com, “Disputes” columnist for Hitchedmag.com, featured writer for Yahoo Personals, Relationship expert on Selfgrowth.com
Media Experience: Extensive radio (including XM and sirius) and cited as expert in newspapers and journals (e.g. Men’s Health, Self, Family Circle, Crain’s NY, Women’s World, Glamour, L.I. Newsday)
Workshop Presentations: Including Learning Annex
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You all heard the stories about Tiger Woods, Charlie Sheen, and Jesse James, and have made your opinions about their secret lifestyles and whether their lives of sex addisction and lust are worth forgiving. Well, GaptoothDiva talks with Ryan Capitol, Author of “Bigger Than Me: An Untold Story of Sex and Love Addiction”, a confessed recovering sex addict about his first book and how he plans to aid in eliminating the suffering, pain, and confusion associated with this disease.
Ryan Capitol has been working for 6 years on changing his life around after being sexually addicted to pornography, women, and having various affairs. One evening while he was involved in an online affair, his wife had a seizure from waiting up for him and worried about their marriage. He has been in recovery ever since that day, and he has seen many terrific people ruined by the problems that they have with compulsive sexual behaviors.
Ryan Capitol is a sex addict with a story to tell the world about, and he is in pursuit of informing men and women of this real disease and to change medical history by researching the problem with real statistics and results through speaking with the public on the issues of sex and love addiction in a non-threatening approach, through telling his story, sharing how most sex addictions start, and giving a helping hand up for those suffering from the shame and guilt that keeps them bound to the compulsive behavior of sex and love addiction.
One of the key differences you will find in how he approaches the subject is that he has lived in this style of life as early as the age of 5. He wants to help inform the world about how serious this problem is becoming through gathering information about the harshness of the disease and the real problem that is out in the world causing the problem to escalate at an alarming rate.
The two key services he is working on currently are book signings with informational seminars, and educational seminars about what sex and love addictions are and what they are not. His whole purpose in this is a passionate heart to help others stop suffering from their shame, and lead them on a road to recovery and a loving relationship with their families and God.
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Phone #: (515) 865-1853
Free preview of my book can be found on the publisher’s website.
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GaptoothDiva talks about the art of deception in relationships, careers, and life with Author Jackie White. Far too many people deal with lies, cheating, hustles and fraud everyday, but how they handle it determines the outcome overall. Is it worth it to show someone that your not “the one to mess with” by seeking revenge? Or will forgiving them too soon cause them to believe that hurting you isn’t much of a consequence. Deception is a common place all over the world and honesty is a rare but much desired trait. People are not fully aware of the steps to take to avoid and protect themselves from it’s often painful and uncomfortable hold on unsuspecting lives.
David McKay loves his wife Asia, but he finds himself caught up in infidelity, trouble, and a whirlwind of dramatic, shocking events. It takes him to the edge, but will he go off the deep end? Asia McKay is young, beautiful, successful, and happily married to David. She soon finds out that her happy marriage isn’t so happy after all. She loses her husband and gains the man of her dreams, but deception finds its way into her life and turns it upside down. Will she ever love or trust again? Gina Garris is a promiscuous, vindictive, carefree woman. Deception is her middle name and a game that she plays all too well. She will stop at nothing to get what she wants. She soon finds out that her wants will supply her with more than she can handle. Will she win at the game she plays, or will her conniving plan fail?
Jackie White works in the medical field and has received a Bachelor’s in Criminal Justice. She has always had a passion for writing. That very passion has led her to write her debut novel, Deception. She currently lives in Union, New Jersey, with her three sons and daughter.
You all have read the book, you have been inspired and you have been charmed, by the charismatic Self-Publishing Author and Mentor Vincent Ellis White. This thirty year old has been rocking the city all summer with his book, “The Fully Seasoned Man’s Relationship Recipe” and has been making appearances everywhere from the iShoutforJoy.com to the GaptoothDiva Radio Show. His purpose is to educate and inform you women about making logic decisions in their search for love and understanding in their relationships with men. A former player himself, Vincent utilizes his faith in God and his desire to be a role model for his son as the catalyst to motivate other men to change their ways.
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GaptoothDiva talks candidly with Author Suzanne A. Roberts and ask the questions most women are afraid to ask. Tune in tonight as we discuss the truth about most failed relationships, how women should use confidence, self discovery, and intimacy when discovering their own perfect 10 within.
Boonie’s birthday was coming close and I needed to come up with some ideas for his spectacular celebration. I considered all the things he had been through for the past couple of months and wanted to show just how appreciative I was. He’s a man, he likes most things that any man in his age group, social network, and demographic would like. I didn’t want to be selfish in any way, when I considered what kind of party he should have, but I did want to have a good time as well.
This may sound weird to some or just too taboo to other’s, but I’m confident in my relationship enough to allow my husband the opportunity to enjoy entertainment that average women would feel threatened by. I’m talking about strippers, if you haven’t figured it out. I like female strippers and we sometimes attend strip clubs on the weekend.
Nights when events are limited and we both have a hole burning in our pockets in search of something fun to do, we will pop up in any local strip club for drinks, a pool game, and some bouncing booties and breast. I have even been guilty of a lap dance or two for him, myself, or both. I’m not ashamed, and I can honestly say that things like this have kept our relationship interesting for over eleven years. So when it came time to throw my own birthday bash for my dear Boonie, it was no question I was having some butt naked performers coming through. I added a tattoo artist, food and unlimited alcohol to the mix, with the hopes that the party would be as off the chain as my imagination had invented.
The event was a surprise to him; he knew nothing of the performers, tattoo artist, or the unlimited bar for the guest. His assumptions were that he was just having a few friends over to play Madden and cards. I was so excited to see his facial expression when he saw the big bootie dancers come thru, ready to make it clap for him and our entire guest list. I invited everyone that I knew he dealt with, people from my job, and even a couple of family members to come enjoy the show with us. Of course, I got some strange looks in regards to if I’m cool with my husband being around other females, especially naked ones. The answer to that was simple, yes! I’m never concerned with the fact of if he’ll look at a naked woman or watch her dance seductively. Why wouldn’t he, he’s a man. If I feared cheating or any inappropriate behavior, then he probably shouldn’t be my dude.
However, the looks I got about being cool with female strippers and not providing any male strippers for the female guest warranted some questions about my sexuality. It was no longer about my husband’s birthday party, but more about if I’m gay, are we swingers, or what. I don’t want to pacify the situation by providing any generic answers, nor will I lie about anything. I find some women just as attractive and sexually appealing as most women find men. I’m grown enough to admit that some women are beautiful and that under certain circumstances I have been guilty of checking out some asses, thighs, legs, and breast. Would I sleep with a chick? That’s between me and that particular chick. Does Boonie know? Why wouldn’t he, he’s not just my husband but my best friend, so he would be the first to know. We are not swingers at all and don’t go out patrolling for a third person to invite into our bedroom. He is just aware of the type of person I would be if we some how did not make it to “‘til death do us part”, and that is ok with him. I’m not going to say our relationship is perfect, but insecurities or uncertainties of infidelity are not issues for us. J
The party turned out great. Bottles were popping, the tat artist was killing a massive creation on Boonie’s chest, something he wanted for months and everyone was satisfied. The performers came in and did their thing, tricks and everything included, providing a story for everyone there that would last for about three weeks. We still managed to have a couple of bottles left with alcohol still in them and no one wanted to stop drinking. I couldn’t get people out the crib until about five in the morning, two hours before Boonie had to go in for an unexpected weekend shift. I was tired but very content to have been able to give him a birthday party he could remember. I was even happier that I was true to our relationship and myself the whole time. I could have spent the extra ends on some male strippers for the six chicks who showed up with their man to monitor the situation, but for what? I wouldn’t want to pose as something I’m not for the sake of other chicks not catching wind of the truth. They either except it or not, be my friend or not, at the end of the day Boonie is happy with the chick he married and happy with my lifestyle. He doesn’t cross lines and ask me to do anything that is not about us, and I don’t disrespect him. His birthday party was sort of my outlet to allow people not only in our home but also in our circle, and everyone had so much fun they didn’t even think twice about it. Guest at the party still joke about me making it rain on the dancers or slapping cheeks, all over the laughter and amazement of my husband. I’m confident now that by being myself and keeping it real, even about my marriage, I will only have people around me who accept me for me. I guess this party solidified what we already knew… this is us.
This is just a sneak peak… sorry you just had to be there
Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina . They have been married 85 years (86 in May) and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple and get this…. Zelmyra is 101 years old and Herbert is 104.
1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option – or even a thought.
2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life – our marriage has lasted a lifetime
3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.
4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith – when you meet him, you’ll know.
5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Respect, support & communicate with each other.Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart
6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!
7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!
Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax – the look on her face & clean plate made my day!
8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.
9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.
10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs – together.
11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.
12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win
13. Is fighting important?
NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend – not break!
14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day.
They also closed out the Q&A with one last message: We wish we could answer more questions! Thanks for your support and interest in our story – we are overwhelmed. And we wish you a happy Valentine’s Day – may it be filled with love and joy. God bless you all, Herbert and Zelmyra.