Developing the Freedom to Quit a Job, Go Bald, and Admit Some Things

I started this movement with plans of inspiring and moving people to take advantage of the resources they have around them and walk closer to the life of their dreams. Whether they wanted to be music artist, fashion designers, famous chefs and bakers, or writers, my goal was to show you real people around you are doing some amazing things. I meet people all the time that knows someone or are that someone that could possibly bring you one-step closer to accomplishing anything you put your mind to. With this blessing came some very hard burdens, I wasn’t ready to overcome.

One of the first burdens was the time and energy required to take on this job. I worked a full time job at a huge agency dedicated to helping people overcome long-term or temporary obstacles in their lives, or at least that’s how they advertised it. The job reminded me of high school, except this time around I had better clothes. Most of the people that worked there were miserable and grouchy because of their lack of motivation in their own personal goals and aspirations, and what they did every single day was make it harder for the people around them who refused to suffer from that same plight. My journey ended with them, when I realized that one of the most pathetic people I’ve ever had the displeasure of meeting never had any other job but the one she held. One day she showed me pictures of happy and excited people from the 80’s (my co-workers) and none of those people looked the same anymore. It wasn’t due to age, it was due to stress from that job. I decided I’d rather be broke and happy, living a life that means something to me, than to hurt others and myself working in what I now call the “belly button of hell”. I wanted work on what I feel God set me up to do, but do it full time and with every ounce of courage I own.

One of the things I didn’t realize is that with the position of inspiring and motivating others, you place yourself on a stage to be judged by all who discover you. Who is she to motivate me? Why should I listen to her? I wanted to answer those questions so bad, but the circle of people I had around me warned me of revealing too much of myself. Some said that I’m so unique that mainstream wouldn’t get it. I might ostracize myself before I caught any momentum. I suffered with wanting my business to be successful and prosperous, but wanting to be me. I’ve never been the type to pretend, so instead of fronting as if I’m something I’m not – I would just be anti-social. Well, that doesn’t exactly work in this business. The business suffers when I don’t feel like interacting with people, duh. Therefore, I have to put that bullshit away. I’m not America’s sweetheart, I curse, I drink, and I smoke occasionally. I have a relationship with my Creator that most people will never understand and that is the only entity that can claim ownership of me or mine. I’m not interested in people who run game; I like it straight with no chaser. I love direct people who don’t beat around the bush, and I got a fetish for bald chicks. There is so much about me that people just won’t get, but that will never be my problem. I just need to keep working.

Another burden turned blessing that I had to realize… I’m worth more. There was a time that I would just get in where I could fit in. That’s the business; you have to pay dues. However, what they don’t talk about is the moment when people start requesting you and asking you for stuff, it’s time to start charging. I rather start small than to beat someone in the head with a ridiculous price not worth the service I provided. I know how much goes into what I do and how much I love it, so I charge a reasonable rate for a lot of the stuff I do. It hurts my feelings when people ask for stuff without mentioning pay. That is why many of the things I do, I do myself. I know that it means more when I accomplish myself without assistance, but I also know how greedy people are. It’s just a matter of knowing your worth and implementing strategies to ensure you get what you deserve. I don’t need to elaborate too much on that. I’m not a slave but I’m also not FREE ($$).

I never thought of myself as a “sex-symbol” or a “vixen” per se. I know that I have assets that both genders could appreciate, but I never flaunted it online for the sake of arousing people. That’s just not my style. I rather attract people with my personality and charm, but then again I’m complicated. Anyway, people were telling me don’t alter my look too drastically. They thought I should stick to the black hair long with different variations of styles but that was it. I was frustrated because I get bored easily; I need to change it up for my sanity. I don’t like looking at the same person every single day… in the mirror, lol. However, again for the business I sacrificed something else.

It started to get to the point that GaptoothDiva was becoming something I was not. I walked around with a name of someone I didn’t recognize. I’m girly and fab, but not that damn girly and fab! I’m pretty and bubbly, but not all the time. If I have to go into hiding every time, I don’t possess some of the qualities that people thought were me, than I’m already out of business. When it stopped making me happy, I knew I needed to change. Of course I love my supporters and my friends, but if they can’t accept me like this than no one deserves me any other way. I have shaved my head and have never felt better. I feel more sexy and attractive now than with hundred dollar weaves on my head. Now I know that if you looking at me, you really like what you see physically. You won’t receive a dolled up version of me. Don’t get me wrong, I still like weave, it’s just that I’m on a different level right now and that’s not what I’m on. I love me for me and I’m requesting anybody with an ounce of courage in them, to join me.

Overall, what I realized is that I was happy with what I saw at home, in the privacy of these four walls around those I love and trust. However, what if the people I’m asking to spend money on me, to support me, and to be apart of my network didn’t get that same person, than who am I doing all this for? I got tired of not being able to take pictures when my hair wasn’t done, or staying off line when I felt like ranting about some real shit. I’m not always right and I damn sure “ain’t” perfect, but each day we live our best lives we get closer to it, and I’m willing to walk with you at my best & worst if you let me. I am no longer afraid to say what’s on my mind, nor am I afraid to lose people who don’t agree. I rather inspire you with the truth than to annoy and irritate you with the same bullshit you’ve been spoon-fed for years. I love when people react and not just watch, I love it even more when they move and not just talk. So from here on out in my t-shirt and draws, with a baldhead and all… I’m stating, “I’m the Baddest Creative Motivation!”

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The Pevolution – Ladies Talent Showcase Hosted by I’esha GaptoothDiva in RVA – Video Footage

Sorry for the delay with this fantastic video footage from the Pevolution: Ladies Showcase last week. With as much money as Google and Youtube have, you would think it would take less than five hours to upload a video. Five hours to me is like 2 years, I digress. Anyway, check out the fantastic female talent that RVA has to offer, as I host one of the most empowering showcases on this side of the universe. This was brought to us by Pink Lady Promotions and was filmed in the Canal Club. Look out , we may be doing another one near you.

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Richmond Virginia’s Pevolution: Ladies Showcase Was A Success Filled with Inspiration and Empowerment

Where in the world can you walk into a nightclub holding 95% females and feel the support of family and friends, while you sing and dance your heart out? If you said nowhere but heaven, you would’ve been right. However, on July 13th, I had the chance to host one of the hottest all females showcases in Richmond, Virginia, The Pevolution: Ladies Showcase!

It was a spectacular evening filled with Hip-Hop, Gospel, R&B, Rock/Jazz, Spoken Word, and even Comedy. Richmond, Virginia is saturated with raw talent and these women were not afraid to show it off that night. This event was all thanks to Pink Lady Promotions, Tameka Pleasants. Her goal was to provide an outlet for women to not only display their God-given talents but also support and empower other women in their own style. The support and empowerment was truly evident. Grown women came to me and mentioned how motivated and inspired they were to not only support other women, but also pursue their individual dreams.

Of course, if you have been following me for a while, you already know that this is my type of party. It was important to me that people didn’t just view this as a female showcase. As the Host, I wanted them to gain some perspective on just how it feels to not just watch your fellow woman give the crowd her all, but to give her all the praise and accolades she needs to feel confident enough to continue on her journey in finding her purpose. I started the show saying; I was going to point out any haters not giving the love that I felt each performer deserves. I hadn’t met most of the performers before the show, but after everything was complete, it felt like family in that nightclub to me. Women shared their stories and testimonies in an effort to motivate each other, people networked and exchanged numbers, and we all laughed and brought joy to each other. No one even thought about the fact that before 7pm, we never even knew the other existed.

There aren’t many events where that empowering energy is in the air. I don’t know if it’s the season or what, but I’m so proud of the women that attended the event that night. We even had women come out of the crowd wanting to release their gifts on the audience, and the crowd was more then willing to see more. I remember when Tameka asked me to host the event I had some small concerns. I was worried about there being a tough crowd, it’s the middle of the week, and Richmond women are sometimes known for being a little hard on other women. All my concerns were laid to rest when I made it clear we were about inspiration and having fun, and the crowd responded, letting me know that’s what they paid for.

Every performer came with their diverse brand of inspiration from the soulful, to the lyrical, and the party girl attitude to the funny girl swag. The Canal Club was on fire with passionate women, all in love with the idea of sisterhood and respect. During the intermission, a few people demanded that we do it again and again, and I couldn’t agree more, it truly was remarkable. I haven’t felt energy like that from a pack of grown women in a long time, and that right there is saying a lot.

Tameka ended the show by delivering beautiful roses to all the women that performed, even the lovely one from the crowd. She gave her heartfelt appreciation to those involved in the process and promised everyone it would happen again.

People left with tears, saying they felt emotionally moved by the display of togetherness and the actual beauty and talent from the stage. I felt it too, but you know I was not about to cry, with these lashes on my face. I digress. LOL. After the show I was totally amplified and excited, I raced to my mother’s house. I just needed to spread love to the women of the world. Since it was almost 11:30 pm, my mother was the only one who was going to allow me to wake her up with that mushy-girly craziness.

It was a wonderful opportunity, and if given again I would jump on it just to experience that feeling of maybe we really can change the world and run it. One woman at a time.

I’m posting a Youtube video very soon of the footage from the show, so be sure to subscribe to my channel (www.youtube.com/gaptoothdiva) to get the latest of The Baddest Creative Motivation.

Love ya xoxo

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GaptoothDiva Radio Season 3 Premiere Tonight at 9pm Featuring Queen of Sexy Drama, Ci Ci Foster and music by Virginia’s Mr. Funny Green

I’m so excited about this new season of GaptoothDiva Radio. If you were a listener of our past seasons, then you may have witnessed some of the country’s most inspiring and motivational individuals in business, literature, relationships, and more. However, in the past we asked the questions that made the person being interviewed more comfortable, neglecting the fact that you out there had real issues and concerns you wanted to discuss. Well forget about the past seasons! My goal is not to be controversial or blatantly disrespectful to get ratings. My goal is to not stuff celebrity names down your throat luring you into my web of constant advertising and sponsorship, that you miss the meat of the discussion.

My goal is to get you motivated to pursue your dreams of writing, music, acting, arts, retail, or whatever it is you love to do. My goal is to give you straight up advice and opinions on the issues that affect real people. Yes, I’m a little out there sometimes, but anyone with passion and a desire to make a difference has to be. No, you won’t hear us gossip about your favorite reality stars, but you will understand that without action, your dreams can not flourish. You will also realize that if you truly believe in yourself, everything is possible. That’s what the GaptoothDiva brand is all about.

Join me and my co-host, Boonyevilla aka “Dre” as we introduce Ci Ci Foster “The Queen of Sexy Drama“, a new urban drama writer and film producer whose work mirrors Eric Jerome Dickey, and Zane. Ci Ci Foster is an author, film producer, relationship advice columnist, and mompreneur who is taking the chic-lit scene by storm and empowering women in the process. A powerful new voice in African American lit, Foster’s literary debut, Sunny Rain, Published by 4 Hearts Publications (April 2010), is the sizzling story of three friends-Leslie, Natalie and Monica; three young women in Chicago who seem to have it all-men, looks that kill, and fabulous careers, but are each carrying secrets from the past that are haunting their lives and destroying their souls. Sunny Rain explores how Black women can heal themselves and get the love they deserve.

Mrs. Foster’s book sets out to change women’s old beliefs about relationships, and sparks honest, provocative discussions on sex, dating, abuse, and the importance of self-love.

Tonight we will discuss these topics that you may find interesting:

Four dating mistakes women make that keep them single

Why good black women are still single

Why loving yourself is essential in building and keeping a relationship

How she handles a successful marriage, a thriving career in Hollywood, and motherhood

An advice columnist for Fever Magazine, Web show host for Dig Into Books, and co-owner of Flower Goddess Productions, a film production company in Los Angeles, Foster has been featured in many publications, including The Chocolate Voice, XI magazine, Fever Magazine, Gloss Magazine, The Black Urban Times and has been a special guest on various radio shows.

Read Ci Ci’s article strictly for women titled “How to Keep Him Coming Back for More,” http://www.abiolatv.com/2011/01/how-to-keep-him-coming-back-for-more.html.

Sunny Rain is a deeply provocative, epic novel that is guaranteed to grab and keep reader’s undivided attention as the story line explodes with lust, chaos, lies, and deception. This sensual ‘mindgasm’ is a must-read for anyone who enjoys reading erotic novels. ISBN: 978-0-615-32400-5 For more information visit www.4heartspublications.com

For large order purchases of “Sunny Rain” contact: kevin@4heartspublications.com

Visit www.CiCiFoster.com for more details

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What To Wear To The Memorial Day Celebration

It’s officially summer time and the BBQ‘s and cookouts are in full affect. No matter the weather it’s always in season to be fashionable and comfortable. These are the cutest selection for the urban cookout and bbq celebration. What should I wear to the memorial day party? Baby, wear what you dare. You won’t look silly trying to walk in the grass in heels if you wear wedges. That’s for the girl that can’t go without wearing something that puts her on top. For those willing to wear flats ever once in a while, some gladiator sandals are always a good staple for the summer. I love these looks and I know you will too. Have a great a safe holiday.

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GaptoothDiva Fashion Find – ShoegasmGallery.com Launched This Weekend

Shoegasm – The peak of a plateau phase during a visual response when viewing a shoe displaying beauty, originality, and/or fierceness.

Yes, you read that correctly. That good ‘ole feeling you get when you want to yell out in ecstasy after seeing that shoe of your dreams. Nicole and Bennika have defined it right and created a business after it. Shoegasmgallery.com is the premier website to purchase the perfect shoe for your personality. Do you want creative? Want stylish? Or do you want something that will make all of your office haters, hate you more? Check out this site and tell the owners what you think.

I was livid with myself when I got too sick to attend the launch party for these entrepreneurial mavens on Saturday, May 14^th at the ultra chic Aloft Hotel in the Short Pump Area. Everything I heard about the event was what I expected. Words like fabulous and amazing were thrown in the air by many of Richmond’s fashionable and chic. All you had to do was check the wire for updates on this event. What was more special, were the encouraging words of support to Nicole and Bennika that many don’t have the luxury of receiving. These young ladies are truly blessed to have such an awesome support system behind them as they embark on taking over the world of retail shoes, by providing women a creative option to shop online.

Reaching out to Nicole to apologize for my absence, I got a quick quote from her:

“The event was a huge success. Despite the weather a lot of people came out to support us, both male and female. The site is completed and fully functioning. We have a wide variety of styles and price points, including shoes that were hand made in the European country of Bulgaria just a week before the launch. We are excited for what is to come in the future, including launch parties in Atlanta and DC.”

- Nicole Tyler

Girl, so are we!

By creating a fabulous boutique online, Bennika and Nicole save on overhead and are able to provide their customers a more personal online experience. Although they just launched this weekend and there isn’t a huge assortment of shoes on their website (thousands of shoes) at this time. They still do offer a wide range of styles to choose from, that will fit any Divas lifestyle. From flats to super high platforms, you can register online to receive updates on new arrivals directly from the website.

These ladies know that presentation is everything. With a sleek website design and fully functional links, minus a few kinks here and there. We are all going to be amazed when these savvy ladies take shoe shopping by storm. They understand that finding the perfect pair of shoes is much like finding love… Always staying ahead of the fashion curve, their mission is to help you find your SOLE mate! I know for sure I got some lost loves somewhere on that site. I’m feeling Alexander at the current moment, so back up ladies. Just kidding. Be sure to add them to your favorites bookmark, because I’m sure Nicole and Bennika have a few more tricks up their fashionable sleeves.

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GaptoothDiva Fashion Find – Urban97Clothing.com – Custom Sneakers, Pumps, and More

So if you are into fashion and individuality like I am , then you got to check out Soul Logistic Radio’s 2010 Facebook Entreprenuer of the Year, Keith G. He has creative and eccentric custom designs when it comes to shoes, T-shirts, and fitted caps. I love the designs and the colorful variety on each and every piece. Working out of Virginia, I’m sure this artist/designer is not going places… he’s already there.  This is just a taste of the pieces that stood out to me while stalking his website. If you love what you see, check him out for yourself. Hopefully, I will spot you rocking his creations at this season’s hottest events.

The urban Store – http://www.urban97clothing.com/ 

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Fashions Around the World Benefiting the Fight Against Domestic Violence and Sexual Abuse

Saturday’s Fashion around the World show held at the Cultural center of India in Chesterfield Virginia, was nothing less than inspiring. It was amazing to see so many people from so many different cultures come together to not only raise awareness for Sexual & Domestic violence but for cultural diversity as well. Thanks to Maricia Harris, member of The Virginia Sexual & Domestic Violence Action Alliance, GaptoothDiva.com was able to come out and get exclusive footage of the event and its participants. There was an abundance of styles and designs that everyone loved and appreciated. We often don’t realize where our clothing designs are inspired from, but at this event, you were sure to find out. For more information on the event and its benefiting organization, It’s A New Day Transitional Services, check out www.ItzANewDay.org

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This Year’s Girlfriend’s Day Celebration Was Not As Well Received as I Hoped

When reaching out to my sisters and my associates about this year’s Girlfriends Day Celebration (which I honestly did not even know was real) I got some very sour reactions. Many black women I know admit to not having any friends or girlfriends, and seem quite content with that. However plastered all over this month’s Essence Magazine issue, all I’m witnessing is African-American women hugged up, all smiling about their profound friendships with their girlfriends. I am confused. Are real girlfriends and true sisterhood only reserved for the elite celebrity types or am I surrounded by a bunch of miserable women too engrossed in their responsibilities to build strong partnerships and bonds with one another?

In my life, I have identified over one hundred women as my BFF, my bestie, my home girl, my cuz, my sister. It was not until February, I really realized that I have none of that. I called everyone that I had something in common with, or shared a good conversation with my best friend. I even paid everything just to keep some people around me. I noticed that I walked away from every interaction with nothing more than hurt feelings and disappointment, until another like-minded individual came around the corner. I didn’t realize that any woman can be vindictive and that many women manipulate each other. I always assumed if they listened to me, they must care. I really thought if they told their personal business to you, it means they trust you. I was obviously ignorant. Everyone doesn’t have that group of females they can depend on that will sit in a diner with you until 2am, to talk about your relationship problems, lack of respect at work, or your sex escapades (Sex in The City, anyone?)But yet, it seems so far fetched that it is possible for us to have long-standing relationships with women that I’m afraid everyone has given up. With shows around like the Bad Girl’s Club and the Housewives, I find myself exhausted by the idea of dealing with too many women at one time. It’s sad to say, but I almost find myself trying to determine if I really need to talk to any of them outside of business and networking. Why get personal? It will only hurt us in the long run. I can almost see why men no longer find it necessary to marry anymore, or why most of them choose to keep their options wide open these days. It’s sad, but I will be the first to admit, I’m disappointed in my gender at least 85% of the time.

Girlfriend’s Day was not a celebration, but a realization for me. I need to actively contribute to bringing more of the women that I know together. We may not agree on the same issues, we may not live the exact same way, but I wish we could focus more on how wonderfully different we are – rather than hate that we are not the same. This is my personal call to action. I’m beautiful just the way I am, I will accept my girlfriends for who they are. I will not be jealous, contradicting, vindictive, gossipy, or manipulative. I will be completely honest and upfront, and I will ask for the same in return. I will hold nothing back but I will be comforting and supportive. I will not judge and I will ask for the same in return.  If we all could focus on these attributes with every woman, not just certain ones, I think next year there will be something to celebrate.

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GaptoothDiva Radio – 16 Universal Principles Every Woman Needs to Know, Interview with Patricia Davis Author of “The Diva Doctrine” Tonight 4/12 at 9pm

“The only thing you should be faking is confidence.”

Author Patricia V. Davis posted that piece of advice along with 15 others on her popular blog in the hopes that they’d help one of her 20-something readers save the precious time she was wasting by torturing herself needlessly, something too many young women do.

That first simple post hit a nerve; within a week it turned into an internet phenomenon – reposted by hundreds of other blogs and read by thousands. That massive response led to the creation of Patricia’s inspirational, yet hilarious and down-to-earth book. The Diva Doctrine: 16 Universal Principles Every Woman Needs to Know is the antidote to youth being “wasted on the young”, and makes a great stocking stuffer, Mother’s Day gift, or graduation gift.

“Patricia V. Davis is the ultimate diva! Wise and witty, she enlightens the rest of us on how to remain true to ourselves and how to shine in a world that needs her beacons of hope like never before. Every young woman should have a copy of THE DIVA DOCTRINE.”

~ New York Times Bestselling Author, Brenda Novak

Patricia V. Davis’s aim is to leave her spot of the world just a little bit better than it was before she got there. She focuses on that through her writing, teaching, philanthropic work, and the promoting of other people who she believes have that same goal.

Patricia is the author of the award-winning Harlot’s Sauce: A Memoir of Food, Family, Love, Loss and Greece, and The Diva Doctrine: 16 Universal Principles Every Woman Needs to Know. She has been called a “Renaissance Woman” by Carine Nadel in The Orange County Register for her writing. As founder and editor-in-chief of the non-partisan HS Radio e-magazine and podcast, Patricia loves encouraging new writers and interviewing other “Renaissance people”, such as Neal deGrasse Tyson, James Redford, Jane Friedman, and more. She holds a Master’s Degree in Creative Writing and Education, and has taught, spoken, read, and conducted seminars extensively in various venues and schools throughout the US and overseas. Patricia was named one of Top 25 Mentors for Young Women and Girls 2010, by the Hot Mommas Project. Her latest work, The Diva Doctrine, is an extension of the guidance and support she hopes to give to women.

For more information, contact Patricia V. Davis at …

www.patriciaVdavis.com
www.harlotssauce.com

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GaptoothDiva Radio – Update Interview w/ LaDonna Smith Author of “I Married Satan” Tonight 03/24 @ 9pm

GaptoothDiva talks candidly with Author LaDonna Smith about overcoming what some call a situation so close to “hell”… relationship abuse. If you or someone you know has experienced relationship abuse, whether physical, verbal or emotional, this is the show you need to listen to. The key points that we will be discussing surrounding this book are: (1) the need for continued awareness and education about domestic violence, (2) the need for an international database of marriages which can be accessed and used to verify marital statuses by (at min) state and government officials, and (3) the need for a domestic violence and abusers database. Sex offenders have a database why not those who commit domestic violence, as well as abusers?

For four and a half years author LaDonna M. Smith thought that she was married to the man of her dreams but the marriage turned out to be a four and a half year nightmare, which God made disappear in moments.

On August 14, 2003, LaDonna got married to a man she was prepared to spend the rest of her life. However, after days and months of physical, mental, emotional and spiritual abuse she found the strength to leave him. But she would soon return to endure even more hardships some repetitious some worse.

Finally, a year later she left for good and three and a half years later she filed for a divorce. Only to find out that her spouse had filed for an annulment a month later. How can he file for an annulment after so many years of marriage? Because – before, during, and after their marriage he was still legally married to his first wife.

The book I Married Satan takes you inside the life of a woman who suffered, endured and eventually triumphed through an abusive marriage; swallowed the pain; forgave her ex ____________ (you fill in the blank) and has since become stronger, wiser, and more spiritual than she could have ever imagined.

About the Author

LaDonna is the Founder and CEO of Philatonian Productions, a member of The Black Writer’s Guild of Maryland, former intern producer of Bernie McCain Show, Associate Producer of the Michael Eric Dyson Show. Her on air name is “The Exectress” and she has also been a guest host on the “Smoke Break” Radio Show. She is also the Promotions Coordinator at WEAA 88.9 FM and a member of the Maryland Business Roundtable Speakers Bureau (MBRT). LaDonna is also the author of soon to be released children’s book “Hannah’s Song: A Musical Approach to Potty Training”, and a newly approved member of the National Association of Professional Women. LaDonna speaks at universities, colleges, churches, schools, women’s organizations, book clubs, and more.

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Female Entrepreneurs Come Together In Richmond Virginia Thanks To Natashab1980.com’s Owner, Brandy Bacote. Check Out The Ladies Night Out Event!

GaptoothDiva.com had the opportunity to attend the first installment of the Ladies Night Out event, thrown by natashab1980.com’s owner Brandy Bacote. It was held at the awesome Douglas Baird House on Cary street and featured a slew of what can only be described as Richmond’s fabulous female business owners. With tables adorned with their latest products and merchandise, the goal was to essentially bring entrepreneurial women together for networking and fellowship while promoting their brands to each other and the patrons. I can’t say that I’ve seen this done quite like this before, but I can say I love the idea and believe that this venture will be successful, if we all adapt the same beliefs held by the organizer, which were, “We need to come together and support one another, that’s all I’m trying to do.”

I walked around the event, checking out items on my upcoming Valentine’s Day checklist, when I met some fantastic women who are doing the damn thing in Richmond’s business circuit. If you don’t know, now you will. I’m about to break down the list of the incredible people I met at Saturday’s fun filled experience.

Of course I have to mention the chic & feisty organizer, Brandy Bacote of www.natashab1980.com. If you guys recognize that name, it’s because she was on my last episode of 2010 where we discussed fashion, accessorizing, and taking care of your body and your health. You can listen to that episode which aired on December 30^th at 9pm, by going to www.blogtalkradio.com/gaptoothdivaradio. She has an assortment of items that I know any fashionista could appreciate. I’m personally stalking a cocktail ring as we speak for my birthday (a skull-head with headphones on) that I can’t wait to wear. She has new deals often that I believe buyers would love to participate in, the most current is her “Black & Yellow” sale, an ode to the Pittsburgh Steeler‘s potential win in this years 2011 Super Bowl game. Although you may not be a Steeler’s fan (don’t tell Brandy that), you can still enjoy the gold and onyx colored jewelry.

I also met with Author Gwen Jefferson of “Til Man Do Us Part” (gwen.jefferson@yahoo), she has been buzzing all over Richmond City with this new book, discussing a topic that many have only described as taboo. How many of you know a man who cheated on his woman with a …. another man? I mean OMG! I’m so excited to get her on GaptoothDiva Radio in the near future, but until then check her out on Facebook under Gwen Jefferson.

When you cop that book, I think you should also check out JovySag Bath and Beauty at www.jovysagbathandbeauty.com, owned by Nina Bacote (Brandy’s Mom). This beautiful woman has put together a wonderfully scented bath & beauty business dedicated to giving women the tools they need to take that much deserved “Me Time”. I’m impressed with her ability to look so radiant and fresh and she gives the credit to taking care of herself all her life. She wants people to look at her products as a reason to spend more time pampering themselves and less on stressing and being so busy. Every female entrepreneur should be flocking to her table next event, because if you know like I do, this is a much needed commodity in our arena.

If your beauty and wellness is important to you, then you should know every sweet woman wants something sweet to eat. I suggest you check out Ms. Raegan Gibson’s Sweets & Soirees, which stated that we can leave the details and even the desserts to her. I had a chance to indulge in her Oreo cupcake and I was very pleased. The desserts were amazing and the presentation (which s important to some people, mainly me) was also fantastic. If you need desserts made for any upcoming events, check her out at www.sweetsandsoiress.com or email her at inquiries@sweetsandsoiress.com

For those of you interested in purchasing custom pieces for your children, I met with Sharhonda Lewis of www.shopminikids.com an online children clothing boutique dedicated to ensuring your child is the most fashion forward at the playground. That’s what I would want, but I’m a Diva what do I know. She has a website filled with unique gifts, clothing and accessories made by independent artisans and designers. I would definitely expect you all to support, I mean stop shelling out your hard earned cash for “everybody got it” gear, for real. Visit Sharhonda’s website as soon as possible, hopefully you can get your spring collection shopping started early, I know the children would appreciate it.

Last by not least, while walking through out the event I met with the woman who was responsible for quite a few hairstyles at the event, the wonderful Andrea Trent owner and stylist at Intrigue (A Healthy Hair Salon). The salon is located at 3500 Kensington Avenue, suite E-1 in Richmond, Virginia, however she was very much in full effect at the Ladies Night Event on Saturday. I saw what she is capable of when it comes to natural short styles and all to an amazing weave job, that I must admit I envied. I can’t wait to see what other things she can do, so I’m requesting that my team and I at www.GaptoothDiva.com do a video interview with her and her staff soon, so be sure to check that out in the near future. Call her at (804) 551-6002 to make your next appointment, I think I will.

Look at who else I ran into….

This is me and Ms. Jamila Joy of IshoutforJoy.com. She was accompanied by the all so famous and “non-picture taking” Mareesa Dawn, out and about supporting the sisterhood and business thing at this event. As always it was a pleasure to see them and you can bet your bottom dollar, we’ll be seeing more from these two very soon.

Overall the event was spectacular and a very much needed aspect in Richmond’s all too exclusive business circles. I believe that when powerful women get together and radiate positivity and support towards one another rather than hate and competition, it creates an atmosphere of motivation and more power. I know you know where all that comes from… GOD, baby! I think this was a great idea and I look forward to attending the next one on February 26^th 2011 at The Douglas Baird House on 101 East Cary Street in Richmond Virginia 23219 from 5pm to 9pm. If you are fabulous and interested in networking with other like-minded individuals, this is definitely the place to be, Don’t miss it!

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Check out the fantastic gold serpent shaped two finger ring I rocked out the door after the event & the skull ring I’m “expecting” to get from hubby on my birthday. A Diva’s mission is never done,

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The Naked Truth of Our Union

Boonie’s birthday was coming close and I needed to come up with some ideas for his spectacular celebration. I considered all the things he had been through for the past couple of months and wanted to show just how appreciative I was. He’s a man, he likes most things that any man in his age group, social network, and demographic would like. I didn’t want to be selfish in any way, when I considered what kind of party he should have, but I did want to have a good time as well.

            This may sound weird to some or just too taboo to other’s, but I’m confident in my relationship enough to allow my husband the opportunity to enjoy entertainment that average women would feel threatened by. I’m talking about strippers, if you haven’t figured it out. I like female strippers and we sometimes attend strip clubs on the weekend.

            Nights when events are limited and we both have a hole burning in our pockets in search of something fun to do, we will pop up in any local strip club for drinks, a pool game, and some bouncing booties and breast. I have even been guilty of a lap dance or two for him, myself, or both. I’m not ashamed, and I can honestly say that things like this have kept our relationship interesting for over eleven years. So when it came time to throw my own birthday bash for my dear Boonie, it was no question I was having some butt naked performers coming through. I added a tattoo artist, food and unlimited alcohol to the mix, with the hopes that the party would be as off the chain as my imagination had invented.

            The event was a surprise to him; he knew nothing of the performers, tattoo artist, or the unlimited bar for the guest. His assumptions were that he was just having a few friends over to play Madden and cards. I was so excited to see his facial expression when he saw the big bootie dancers come thru, ready to make it clap for him and our entire guest list. I invited everyone that I knew he dealt with, people from my job, and even a couple of family members to come enjoy the show with us. Of course, I got some strange looks in regards to if I’m cool with my husband being around other females, especially naked ones. The answer to that was simple, yes! I’m never concerned with the fact of if he’ll look at a naked woman or watch her dance seductively. Why wouldn’t he, he’s a man. If I feared cheating or any inappropriate behavior, then he probably shouldn’t be my dude.

However, the looks I got about being cool with female strippers and not providing any male strippers for the female guest warranted some questions about my sexuality. It was no longer about my husband’s birthday party, but more about if I’m gay, are we swingers, or what. I don’t want to pacify the situation by providing any generic answers, nor will I lie about anything. I find some women just as attractive and sexually appealing as most women find men. I’m grown enough to admit that some women are beautiful and that under certain circumstances I have been guilty of checking out some asses, thighs, legs, and breast. Would I sleep with a chick? That’s between me and that particular chick. Does Boonie know? Why wouldn’t he, he’s not just my husband but my best friend, so he would be the first to know. We are not swingers at all and don’t go out patrolling for a third person to invite into our bedroom. He is just aware of the type of person I would be if we some how did not make it to “‘til death do us part”, and that is ok with him. I’m not going to say our relationship is perfect, but insecurities or uncertainties of infidelity are not issues for us. J

The party turned out great. Bottles were popping, the tat artist was killing a massive creation on Boonie’s chest, something he wanted for months and everyone was satisfied. The performers came in and did their thing, tricks and everything included, providing a story for everyone there that would last for about three weeks. We still managed to have a couple of bottles left with alcohol still in them and no one wanted to stop drinking. I couldn’t get people out the crib until about five in the morning, two hours before Boonie had to go in for an unexpected weekend shift. I was tired but very content to have been able to give him a birthday party he could remember. I was even happier that I was true to our relationship and myself the whole time. I could have spent the extra ends on some male strippers for the six chicks who showed up with their man to monitor the situation, but for what? I wouldn’t want to pose as something I’m not for the sake of other chicks not catching wind of the truth. They either except it or not, be my friend or not, at the end of the day Boonie is happy with the chick he married and happy with my lifestyle. He doesn’t cross lines and ask me to do anything that is not about us, and I don’t disrespect him. His birthday party was sort of my outlet to allow people not only in our home but also in our circle, and everyone had so much fun they didn’t even think twice about it. Guest at the party still joke about me making it rain on the dancers or slapping cheeks, all over the laughter and amazement of my husband. I’m confident now that by being myself and keeping it real, even about my marriage, I will only have people around me who accept me for me. I guess this party solidified what we already knew… this is us.

This is just a sneak peak… sorry you just had to be there

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Why Are So Many Females Busting Out of Their Clothes?!!

These women failed to realize the sign on the garment that read:

“AAAWWW HEEELLL NAAAW! You can’t wear me! I don’t Fit You! Get something a little bigger and stop embarrassing yourself, chic.

This is the reason the plus size community gets so much crap from the media. I understand original style, I love it. But to be falling out your clothes… unacceptable.

Sorry, go straight to jail!

And for the little girl… child obesity is not a game. Mothers we really need to ensure our children have a balance diet. It makes no sense at all for this child to be that big still in a stroller. Who is throwing their back out pushing this little girl around? Let her walk some of those cakes and cookies off. She is going to be seriously damaged down the road, if they don’t fix it now.